i am what i think i am

•July 28, 2008 • Leave a Comment

The weekend was fruitful. Many things was accomplished. On the personal front, I did make a conscious study of myself. I am what i think i am.

 

I want to be a respectful person – Someone everyone loves and everyone wants to be with.
How can i achieve that? As easy as it sounds i should start with respecting others first. Treat them like how i want to be treated.

Smile. And the world smiles with you 🙂

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Its a brand new day!

•July 27, 2008 • 1 Comment

Happy Sunday!

I did it!!! i manage to change myself. I can be a better person!!!! Thanks to the lord. Anything is possible if you want it to be. Don’t be ashamed of changing. Don’t be ashamed of improving yourself. Because at the end of the day… you are becoming a better person as a whole.

Yesterday, it was hard to begin. But whhat i realized is that i become a more calm person.

So, today, i want to learn to be a more loving person.

 

5 actions for a successful relationship
(by Meditation for Women)

Action 1 – KINDNESS TO SELF AND OTHERS
Do you go thru the day spending much of your thinking time judging yourself or others?, Or do you make the spiritual attribute of kindness to yourself and others, including your partner, your highest priority?

People in successful relationship treat themselves and their partners with kindness – kind words, kind actions, kind looks, kind listening, and kind thoughts. It is far more important to be kind than to control their partner with anger, judgement, criticism, irritation, blame, resistance or withdrawal.

Action 2 –  PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR FEELINGS
Do not make your partner responsible for your feelings. When you feel angry, hurt, anxious, depressed, resedntlful, irritated, guilty, or shamed – look within your own thoughtsand behaviour that may be causing your painful feeling.

Learn how to manage your own feelings without dumping your upset to your partner. When you can’t manage your own feelings, get the help you need rather than dump anger, blame, anxiety or depression onto your partner.

Action 3 – ORGANIZATIONAL RESPONSIBILITY
Take responsibility for managing your own time and space in ways that work for yourself and your partner. Make sure you have enough time with each other to talk, learn, resolve conflict, play and make love. Than, make sure you have time with your children, time for chores, time for work and time for relaxation.

Strive to make your living space and environment pleasant for both of you rather than either of you complying, controlling, or resisting. Because your highest priority is kindness to yourself and to each other.

Action 4 – FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY
Successful couples make sure that they not only earn enough o support themselves, but they learn how to manage their money in ways that do not create stress for themselves or their partner. Have a mutual understanding of what to do with your money.

Action 5 – HEALTH AND WELL-BEING
When 2 people care deeply about themselves and each other, they strive to take care of their physical health. Loving partners do not behave in ways that cause their partner to fear for their wellbeing.

Therefore – successful relationships don’t just happen. They are the result of each person taking physical, emotional, financial, organizational, and spiritual responsibility within their relationship.

This not only apply to you and your husband or boyfriend. It must also apply to your everyday life – you must also apply it in relationship with your parents, your siblings, friends, and also working colleagues.

Happy Sunday 🙂

Hello world!

•July 26, 2008 • Leave a Comment

Hello world! This is my first blog. The reason for this blog is for me to pen down my thoughts. All thoughts are directed to myself. How to improve myself and my personal well being. Abother purpose for this blog is also for people searching for the meaning of self respect, searching for an answer or simply looking for ways to further improve themselves.

I dont have any qualms about myself. A very confident and independant person. But sometimes, life throws you a curve ball and these are the times that makes me look deep within me to discover my true self worth.

I’m proud of what I am now. Proud but humbled. Humble from the man up above. He gives me strenght and He gave me faith. He gave me the self confident i have all this while.

I love my family. I am truely greatful that i have a great mother as a pillar of strenght. She has been to hell and back. What she has gone through in life has thought me that life is not a bed of roses. Not always smooth sailing. Not always what you want it to be. But at the end of the tunnel there is always light. There is hope in everything. Be patient and stay true to yourself. You will taste the honey.

As my mother is sitting in front of me now.. i’m wondering…. will i be as strong and as good as her when i’m at her age? Will i be able to bring up my family as good as how she did it. I will have to learn to understand myself first and love myself first.

Here I am today. Starting this blog. Taking the first step to understand myself. I want to improve myself. I want to be a better person for me, my husband, my parents, my siblings and my friends around me. People i care about.

As a start, every morning, i will have to know that i have improved from what i was yesterday.

Yesterday, I was a person so proud. A person who won’t take no for an answer. A person who won’t listen to another person’s ideas and thoughts. I want to change that. I will never say no to something i didn’t explore about. Weight the idea and think about it first before i object.

For those of you reading this, I will be truely greatful if you give me words of encouragement and support for my journey begins today.

xoxo