Being happy

Have you ever been jealous of a friend who have accomplished something?

Have you ever been jealous of a friend because he is going out with a hot girl? Have you been jealous because your close friend just bought a new car? Have you been jealous because your best friend got married?

Well I have. And I am ashamed to say that is really low of me.
Why should i be jealous in the first place? Is it because i have not accomplished the same thing?

A really really close friend of mine got married a few years back and i was picked to be her maid of honour. How did i replied her honor? By being late for the wedding rehersals. By not being there to help her prepare for the big day. I regret what i did and i feel sorry for myself. THAT WAS STOOPID!

There was another time when a friend of mine was getting together with some other friends. And i has too busy with my own personal life. I was jealous of the fact that i was not invited to the gathering. WTF rite???? I was too busy to even catch up with them but i was jealous because they went out without me??? ANOTHER STOOPID ACT!!!!

Ok so i want to straighten myself up. I read somewhere:

“Being happy for others is not always easy. It is a feeling that often takes practice. You must learn to congratulate others. Attend special events for them like weddings or house warming parties and so on. Being happy for your friends is a challenge that requires you to put your personal disappointments to the side. You can be happy for a friends accomplishment while working on your own. care about the most, you often will have a much better friend. Continue to stay focused on your personal goals but be a good friend to your friends.”

Learning to be happy for others is not always easy. It is however, usually rewarding. If you learn to be happy for those you

“Most people are jealous for one simple reason. They are not happy with their own life. They see others accomplishing things that they would like to accomplish. The reality is if you don’t won’t to be jealous you have to begin to evaluate your own life. What is it that you want to accomplish? You have to ask yourself “Why haven’t I accomplished these things yet?” Being honest with yourself is the key here. If you want to reach your goals you have to determine why you have failed in the past or what is keeping you from getting where you want to be. Finally you need to determine what it will take to reach your goal.

Avoiding jealousy also begins with a change in attitude. For some of the single members of my group of friends, they had to decide that they would continue to be happy in their own life while they try to meet that special person. This is often the key when avoiding jealousy. It’s not always about how you get there or when you get there, as much as if you get there. You have to learn to be content as you continue to push toward your goal. “

So there you go! Please absorb what i’ve just written. And act on it. Because the friends that you have now will never ever be replaceable. You must cherish them and be happy for them no matter what the circumstances are.

I love you my friends and I am going to be there for you thru thick and thin.
Please forgive me if i have done you wrong and please forgive me if i have been rude to you in the past.


~ by mzulaikha on July 31, 2008.

3 Responses to “Being happy”

  1. yes, i ever been jealous like that, but it didnt make me feel, so i threw it out and made it as a motivation to get a great achieve in my lid. k3ep posting, thanks for sharing. you may visit my blog too. thank you 🙂

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  3. Maybe I’m just odd (so I’ve been told many times) but I almost seldom feel jealous over other ppl’s achievement, success, happiness etc but I tend to get venomous jealousy stares and words thrown at me many many times. Made me wondered, what is it about me that trigger such jealousy? I’m no Queen Elizabeth and heck, I know I’m no sexy chicka like Christina Aguilera! Maybe a matchstick or a toothpick but other than that? Pfft. Since I dont possess such feelings like that for others, their malices puzzled me coz I just don’t understand the feeling. I pulled myself away from all so that I won’t make them feel like baboons in frenzy much longer. I rather be alone sometimes then putting ppl in a position where jealousy can turn into hatred…

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